The most expensive sentence you say

Dear reader, the most expensive sentence I hear in sessions has four words and a comma: “I’ll start when,” and then a condition.

When the kids are older. When work calms down. When I’ve lost the weight. The condition is always reasonable, and that’s what makes it expensive.

Ask yourself what the smallest version of the thing would look like if you started this week, with the kids still young and work still loud. Usually it’s ten minutes long.

Ten minutes isn’t the goal. It’s the proof that the condition was never the reason.